High School Pregnancy Pact

I was getting ready to sit down and right a nice post; something just sweet and cute for mommies Well, I was, until I saw this headline....

"Teen ‘pregnancy pact’ has 17 girls expecting"

No, joke! That is for real! I couldn't believe the headline when I saw it, so of course, I clicked on the title to read the full story. I was hoping to be reassured that it couldn't be what it looked like, but unfortunately it was everything that it seemed.

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A group of girls at a high school in Massachusetts all made a pact to get pregnant and raise their little babies together. As of now, they know that there are at least 17 young girls that successfully got pregnant, many of them 16 years old or younger.

WHAT THE CRAP!? Apparently these high school Twinkies think raising babies is all strolling through the park and dress up... maybe they should read my freak out post from yesterday.

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But unfortunately these girls hold stupidity to a new level, because.... since they were looking to get pregnant not all of them had boyfriends or a guy in the school that were so willing to jump into parenthood... SOOOOOO... some of them ran off and found 20-something year old guys or even in some situations, HOMELESS MEN, to knock them up!

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The whole story to me is sad and sickening with these girls doing something stupid and taking a huge gamble with the future lives of these babies, but one of the most infuriating issues with this situation is that the article then proceeds to talk about the Principal not returning calls, the school wasn't handing out condoms, and that the school hasn't decided what they will do with the students.
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When did birth control and sex become a school issue! What happened to their parents? Where are the adults in these girls lives? Why it is a Principal's job to keep 2,000 students from making bad personal choices? Is anybody else out there wondering why the media, parents, and officials are putting the fault and blame on the schools?

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I know and understand that parents can't always be with the children and that if kids want to get into trouble they can, but to have 17 girls choose and want to get pregnant and to think that is a GOOD idea, is just mind blowing. Why are the girls even having sex.... there is something sad in thinking these girls are more practised in the bed than behind the wheel of a car.

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I don't want to prejudge... I am sure that maybe some of these girls could be going through a hard time and are lashing out. I don't know these girls and I don't know why they are choosing this for themselves and their babies. I don't know if they have lost a family member or their parents are in the middle of a divorce or they even see stars like Jamie-Lynn Spears making pregnancy look fun and hip. But I still wonder how soooo many of those girls could make such a sad choice for themselves and such a selfish one.

So my questions is, are you as infuriated as I am? Do you feel like it is the school's fault and if it is the schools fault, do you think they should have more control/disciplinary action over the students behavior? If it is the parents fault, do you think they are not teaching their kids right? Do you feel parents do not spend enough time talking with their children or leading by example?

Well, whoever is to blame, the parents not paying enough attention, children being too spoiled these days, or schools talking too much about sex, I simply hope that these girls' parents try to help their daughters make the right choice for these babies. I am biased for adoption because my husband is adopted. His birth mother and father were high school sweethearts that got pregnant in school; they were even great students, track runners, and in love, but they still gave Curtis up. I have talked with Curtis several times about this and asked him if he ever felt abandoned or "given up" and his answered surprised me. He informed me that he is thankful every day that his birth mom and dad gave him up, that they cared enough about him to do that for him. He said he has never felt abandonment, nothing but love, both from his birth parents and from his adoptive parents. So what ever is best for these babies, to be raised by the birth mom or to be given to a couple longing for a child... I hope that everything will work out.