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Monday, September 22, 2008

Date Night

FAMILY MOMENT MONDAY
There is a center for everything. Everything has a center, a focus, a stabilizing character you might say; for a family, that would the parents.

Us as parents are the very center and stabilizing characteristic for the family. Children ask us for permission, come to us for help, depend on us being there and much much more. We, as moms and dads, need to be a constant stable factor in their always changing world. Where, to them, their life is ruined if pretty Jennifer Stevensen gave them the stink eye in class and and said her shoes aren't from the real Miley Cyrus collection. Harsh... I know.

When children's lives can so easily be shaken with silly things it is necessary that the REAL things are stable. That is why constantly reconnecting with our spouses is such an importance. In today's world, school, dance classes, soccer tournaments, bake sales, and PTA meetings are slowly taking over our lives, it is easy to over look the person that we should be making the most time for.

I believe date nights are a huge part in successful families and marriage. Showing each other and the children that your marriage is important and that family time is worth making time for. Not only is it great for the children to see how committed we are to our own relationship, but it is great to get some time with each other. How easily the stresses of the day melt away when the two of us are eating and laughing over dinner. No matter how bad a movie may be, it is never a waste if I get to snuggle up with my husband during it. I also find that I am a better mother when I have had time to enjoy with Curtis; it helps me to remind myself that we are a team, connected, together.

So, in this world of Blackberries, schedules, meetings, committees, and everything else.... let us try to remember the orgin of the family.... the parents. Making sure to put an effort into spending time with the most important part, each other.

Please remember to add your link only if you are participating in Family Moment Monday. Family Moment Monday consists of people who are sharing crafts, activities, lessons, ideas, service projects or anything else that you can learn/do/enjoy as a family in your post. Please remember to link back to Motherhood For Dummies, so others can learn about F.M.M. and participate too.

19 comments:

  1. I love date nights...I look forward to date nights....I NEED date nights!

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  2. so true! a great reminder in a busy world! i am going to find a babysitter and go out with my hubby this week!!

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  3. Love this reminder. Thanks! I really do want to participate in Family Moment Monday. I will one day have my act together to share something fun and special that we have done together.

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  4. Date night, hmmm, what is that again?

    No, I know it is important, and boy do we need it! I wish finding a babysitter was easier though.

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  5. Couldn't agree more. I'm in need of a date night myself. Maybe this weekend!

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  6. You are so right (and so insightful!). I was just thinking last night of trying to find a babysitter.....we haven't been out alone in I don't know how long. Our baby is 10 months old, and it was well before that that we had a night alone. Now, if I can just find an awesome babysitter!

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  7. What a great reminder. You're so right. I posted a FMM.

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  8. Very, very true! We love date nights... we don't get to have them nearly the amount we would like.

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  9. I am a firm believer in date night. We do it about once a week. Even at home since the little one goes to bed early. We make sure to always set time for ourselves. And this weekend will be a date weekend - yay!

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  10. oh i think it is sooo time for hubby and i to have a date night. we don't do them near as often as we should!!

    thanks for the reminder :)

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  11. It's so hard to do but you are so right...it is so easy to get lost in the mix of everything else!

    HM

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  12. Totally agree with you 1,000,000%. We've been having a HARD time sticking to date night since our 16 month old was born. She was born super early and in the NICU for a long time...my hubby is SO protective of her because of our experience and HATES leaving her with ANYONE. We just had a 'nice' long discussion about us needing a date night...it's going to happen SOON....and often from this point on.

    :)

    ~melody~

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  13. I can't remember the last time my husband and I had a REAL date night! I don't think takeout in front of the evening news counts. ;o)

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  14. I'd love a date night, but when you have four contentious kids, you fear for a babysitter's life. The last one we had got married and never looked back.

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  15. Thanks for another great reminder.
    I do need to schedule one of these...soon!

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  16. Thanks for reminding everyone that the parents are the one stable factor in a world full of chaos and change. It starts with us and grows but no matter what there is always an us!

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  17. Thank goodness for date night. We schedule it for once a week.

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